Shara Grove Holistics

The number 4 can be seen as a very powerful number, universal if you may. For there are 4 directions (North, South, East and West), 4 seasons (Spring, Summer, Autumn and Winter), 4 races (Oriental, Red, Black and White), 4 types of creatures that breathe (Those that fly, 4 legged, 2 legged and those that crawl), as well as the 4 elements (Water, Air, Fire and Earth).

In many aboriginal and indigenous cultures, they use what is called the Medicine Wheel. This wheel can include/interpret different meanings depending on tribes and locations, so in this instance, I’m going to use what I’ve come across the most and what it is specifically I want to talk about, and that is the East representing all things physical.

Our spirits enter the physical at conception. Our spirits then enters the physical world when the mothers water breaks and the spirit is born.
From the very moment of conception, our spirits are built into community. We are surrounded by our mothers body, and the mother herself is surrounded by people. Whether it’s family, friends, the friendly barista or the dog walker she passes daily. We are conceived and born into community.

These communities undoubtedly shape us in a multitude of ways, but they are vital in our growth. Whether we learn good or bad lessons from they, we as humans are built for communal living.

I’ve been introverted my whole life, somewhat heavily at times, but I’ve always felt more free within myself when I’m by myself. Community is something that I’ve always struggled with. I’ve never really had a group of friends, I’ve never really been one for big social gatherings and I’ve always loved the image and lifestyle of a solitary life.

But something I’ve realised recently is how important human relationships are. For one, they will be your biggest teachings, and for two they will help you repair the damage that has been done by those teachings.

Admittedly I think my desire for a lonesome life came from a place of deep hurt, rejection and potentially fears of some kind. Some may say I was avoiding and I think I’d agree with them.

I’ve explored past lives of mine, and I’ve come across a few where I chose the lonesome life, but in doing that I ended up dying awful deaths because I didn’t have the protection of a community around me, and I truly believe that this is one of the lessons I need to learn in this life. The power of community.

I’ve tried fitting into a community, but altering myself to fit into boxes did more harm to my psyche than I had planned. Living on the road has brought me (and us) some incredibly tranquil days that I’ll treasure forever, but where we are (and have been for the past month or so) is where I’m gaining the comfort of living within a community.

Life here is wonderful, and we’re super happy, but I have to admit that there have been times where I just want to hide away in our road home to avoid people, and I’m aware of how ridiculous this is because I’m surrounded by the two very kind owners of the property, a woman with her two daughters (one of which I’ve formed an incredible bond with) and a lovely spiritual lady that I’ve connected with also.

It’s been an interesting challenge to face. It’s been one of those where it’s become very clear what is me and what is fear. Realising this has then helped me form these bonds with these completely random stranger.

What’s also interesting is how we all seem to be here at the same time for a reason and we all agree with this. The fact that we all agree with it has solidified the community within us. We’re here to help each other, connect and talk, introduce and form friendships that may only last within this little community.

I think my approach to community is tied into the lack of community I have felt throughout my life so far. I’ve never found a place where I felt like I fitted in, where I felt I was at home and not just at my home. I haven’t come across my tribe that I dance and howl with underneath the moon. I haven’t come across a coven of witches to do rituals and cast spells with. There’s a deep sense of lack within me, and it is a lack of community, and I think that lack had turned into possible resentment towards entering a community.

When you’ve been betrayed by humans before, it’s very easy to turn against the human race as a whole, especially when you are shoveled negative news, the bad side of social media and all round negative energy. It’s easy to dislike humans because it’s harder to heal your relationship towards them.

There are some horrible humans out there, we are all aware of that, and I’m sure we know one or more humans that have caused us pain in some way, but there are also humans out there who are in the same boat as you. Humans that are empathetic, that do care and do listen. There are humans out there that heal others oh so naturally. They empower, encourage and excite energy within you.

Don’t allow the bad deeds of one shape your perspective on the millions of others. Human relationships heal more than they harm, this I’m currently learning.